Built by a formerYou're allowed to ask for help. Here's exactly what you're entitled to, and exactly what to say.
If you're reading this on a break, before a shift, or after the kids are in bed — you're one of roughly 3 million carers in the UK who are also holding down paid work. This isn't the edge case. It's the mainstream, and since April 2024 the law gives you more to work with than it used to.
Three separate rights sit below, in the order most people reach for them. Each one comes with a line you can actually say out loud.
If you're supporting a partner, parent, child, friend, or neighbour who needs help because of illness, disability, or age — and you're also in paid work, whether that's full-time, part-time, zero-hours, or self-employed — this applies to you. You don't need to think of yourself as a "carer" in any formal sense. If you're doing the caring and doing the job, these rights are already yours.
Easy to blur together — here's the difference, and what to say for each.
Your planned week off, unpaid
"I need to take Carer's Leave — [X days] on [date]. I'll confirm in writing if that's easier for your records."
Doesn't have to be in writing — you can ask verbally, and you don't need to prove anything. But it's worth sending a quick follow-up text or email anyway, just so there's a record of what you asked for and when. If your employer later delays your leave, they're legally required to confirm the new date in writing — your own note is what you'd check that against.
Asking for a different shape to your week
"I'd like to request a change to my hours — [what you want] — because of a caring responsibility."
Something's happened and you need to leave now
"There's an emergency with [name], I need to go. I'll update you when I know more."
Refused outright, or treated badly for asking? That's outside what this guide can advise on directly. ACAS gives free, independent guidance on exactly this kind of workplace dispute — the right first call before anything more formal.
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